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Bereavement resources for parents and school staff

Supporting bereaved children through the Coronavirus Pandemic 

Losing someone close to us is never easy. Things are even harder at the moment because those grieving rituals we usually engage in to bring us some comfort and closure cannot happen in quite the same way at the moment.   For anyone who is experiencing a bereavement in these extraordinary times, this will be especially challenging due to the uncertainty brought about by Covid-19 and the restrictions it brings. 

Also losing a loved one to a new virus that we do not really understand completely is even more frightening. We hear lots of statistics on the news but when one of those numbers read out is an actual person who is no longer here it really is very hard.  You might have lost someone due to an important operation being cancelled due to the Corona Virus, there are many indirect but linked deaths too. You are not alone. With the help of  our mental health team here at the teaching school we have gathered a plethora of useful  bereavement resources including, books, resources, websites and information to help those who have lost someone or to help you support someone recently bereaved. We hope you find something that will support you through this very sad time.T o support children, we also need to take care of ourselves. Whatever happens, there are always people to help and listen. As well as resources, books, activities and information, we have also included a list of helplines offering support for adults as well.

 

Books and Workbooks for Children

 

Adult books

Healing Grief by Barbara Ward https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0091778395/ref=as_li_ss_il

The Courage to Grieve by Judy Tatelbaum https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0749309369/ref=as_li_ss_il

The Early Days of Grieving by Derek Nuttal https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0232526443/ref=as_li_ss_il

The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1846041058/ref=as_li_ss_il

Through Grief by Elizabeth Collick https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0232516820/ref=as_li_ss_il

You’ll Get Over It – The Rage of Bereavement by Virginia Ironside https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0140236082/ref=as_li_ss_il

When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold S. Kushner https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0330490559/ref=as_li_ss_il

 

Websites

Cruse Bereavement Care

Cruse Bereavement Care exists to promote the well-being of bereaved people and to enable anyone bereaved by death to understand their grief and cope with their loss. The organisation provides counselling and support. It offers information, advice, education and training services. Visit their website for more details.

Daytime help line: 0844 477 9400

Email support: helpline@crusebereavementcare.org.uk

Young Person’s Helpline: freephone 0808 808 1677

 

The Compassionate Friends

The Compassionate Friends (TCF) is an organisation of bereaved parents and their families offering understanding, support and encouragement to others after the death of a child or children. Their help line is always answered by a bereaved parent who is there to listen and can also put you in touch with a Local Contact and provide information about TCF’s services.

Helpline: 08451 23 23 04 (Every day: 10.00 – 16.00 and 19.00 – 22.00)

Email (information and support): helpline@tcf.org.uk

Web: https://www.tcf.org.uk/

 

The Samaritans

As well as providing a general helpline, the Samaritans have groups in some areas for people who have been bereaved by suicide. Email, telephone (08457 90 90 90 ) or write to them:

Freepost RSRB-KKBY-CYJK, Chris, PO Box 90 90, Stirling, FK8 2SA.

Web:  https://www.samaritans.org/

 

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide provides emotional and practical support to those bereaved by the suicide of a close relative or friend. The aim is to provide a safe, confidential environment in which bereaved people can share their experiences and feelings, so giving and gaining support from each other. It is a self-help organisation and many of those helping have, themselves, been bereaved by suicide.

Visit www.uk-sobs.org.uk

Call the National Helpline: 0844 561 6855 (Available 9am – 9pm every day)

Email sobs.support@hotmail.com after the death of a child or children.

Supporting people bereaved by suicide – *** new booklet

Finding the Words is a new booklet which suggest ways family, friends and colleagues can offer support to someone who has been bereaved by suicide. It has been written by Dr Alexandra Pitman, based on her research findings, and a writer with personal experience, Maxine Roper; the editor is Amy Meadows. It includes sections on why suicide is a unique loss, the fact that everyone grieves differently, things to avoid and finding help.

You can download Finding the Words free of charge

https://www.nspa.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/Finding-the-words-online-version.pdf

The INQUEST Handbook

The INQUEST Handbook is a resource for families and friends dealing with the aftermath of a sudden bereavement.

You access the handbook online here. http://info.inquest.org.uk/handbook/

Sudden

A charitable initiative for those who are suddenly bereaved and the people caring for them.  Information includes free advice and guidance for carers, professionals, in addition to seminars and training for professionals

http://www.suddendeath.org/covid-19-bereavement

 

Winston’s Wish – https://www.winstonswish.org/supporting-you/support- -schools/

Supporting bereaved children and young people, the organisation’s website includes various downloadable resources including:

A guide to supporting grieving children and young people in education

A strategy for schools – positive responses to death

The Charter for bereaved children

 

Child Bereavement UK – https://www.childbereavementuk.org/

Supporting bereaved children through difficult times information sheet

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Handlers/Download.ashx?IDMF=bc9f3d7d-7b43-421a-8ed4-4335f9c23b35

Ways to get support include an app available from Google Play for young people aged 11-25 years

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/get-support

 

 

Sue Ryder

Sue Ryder has an online support community for those dealing with a bereavement and a counselling service

https://www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help

 

Psychology Today blog post

Thoughts on coping with a bereavement during Covid-19

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/bravery-in-bereavement/202004/how-cope-bereavement-during-the-covid-19-pandemic

 

Greater Manchester Bereavement Service and associated website https://greater-manchester-bereavement-service.org.uk/ are now live.

 

More useful resources for lesson planning

Sources of bereavement

Powerpoint – what to say and what not to say

About bereavement

Grief and bereavement

 

 

Guidance from Winston’s Wish:

How to tell a child that someone has died due to Coronavirus https://www.winstonswish.org/telling-a-child-someone-died-from-coronavirus/

How to say goodbye when a funeral isn’t possible

https://www.winstonswish.org/coronavirus-funerals-alternative-goodbyes/    

Child Bereavement UK has a range of resources on the Coronavirus section of their website. This includes guidance on supporting children through difficult times, what to do when you can’t visit someone who is ill and holding a funeral for someone when you cannot meet in person.  

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Pages/Category/coronavirus

 

There’s also a guide to supporting early years, plus primary and secondary school-aged children with bereavement including how to support the family:

 

Early Years

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/early-years-supporting-bereaved-children

 https://www.childbereavementuk.org/early-years-support-for-the-family

 

Supporting a bereaved pupil in Primary school

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/primary-schools-supporting-bereaved-children

 

Supporting a bereaved pupil in secondary school

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Pages/Category/secondary-schools

 

Supporting a bereaved person in further education

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Pages/Category/furtherhigher-education

 

Managing a sudden death

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/managing-a-sudden-death

 

Developing a bereavement policy

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Handlers/Download.ashx?IDMF=25163ea3-1a21-4c27-a672-778c9f1c0ade

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Handlers/Download.ashx?IDMF=cf7c8bdb-ecb7-4e50-b596-28c9963ea395

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Handlers/Download.ashx?IDMF=3f309a16-ed1f-407a-a5ab-8589223caae5

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Handlers/Download.ashx?IDMF=0f799e72-c206-4b34-9e27-5f680314980d

 

Managing bereavement in schools

 

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/Handlers/Download.ashx?IDMF=4b13d694-2038-4918-90b3-13c06100aafb

 

Age appropriate reading:

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/early-years-books-and-resources

 

Training

 https://www.childbereavementuk.org/what-we-offer